Lately, I’ve really been pushing a lot of boundaries. I’ve really been focused on being myself, all the time. I have really been taking the time to understand who I am, mentally and energetically. You know, learning how to protect my energy. I’ve always been a highly sensitive person, some people call this a intuitive empath. I don’t argue with the term. I am very intuitive and I am very sensitive to the energies of others and those within the earth. I’ve been in the phase of looking for the perfect crystal to clock transference or just downright locking myself away from others. It wasn’t until I was single that I realized one little trick that would have helped me so much more if I would have known sooner.
The last time I had slept alone, in a home alone, were in my twenties. Post college, pre-children phases with a lot of risk taking activities. And boy oh boy do I miss those days. I was fearless, heavily social, vibrant, and never scared to get into whatever situation the day called for. My dreams were reflective of who I was in my waking hours, fun and nurturing. I was flowing. Those were the days I felt closest to myself. No second guessing. When I retreated into my home, no energy followed me there.
By the age of 25, I had become someone’s fiancée, eventually leading to moving in together, ultimately sharing a bed together — but not necessarily a bedtime. I had always been a very dreamy person, dreaming at stop signs, in class, midsentence. I have always had a love relationship with astral traveling. What can I say? A girl just loves her freedom.
What became the problem?
My dreams became filled with terror, no longer the long rides on spaceships to lover’s lane. Just the theme of the last television show played on a a creative loop in my sleep. Waking up to every toss and turn. Mornings were unbearable. And this went on for the next several years, resulting in many late night arguments, eventually leading to a separation due to many differences, most stemming from bedtime.
It wasn’t until I ran across information about the benefits from sleeping in your own aura. It was then that I knew, I had been sleeping all wrong, and because of this, my moods, patience, individuality were all affected by something so simple that could have been solidified by sleeping in another room.
So what did I find?
Easy…energy!
An aura is the electromagnetic field surrounding us that remains formless. Turns out that even while sleeping, we are still susceptible to downloading our partners subconscious emotional surges. As a empath and having always being sensitive to everyone’s emotions, it could be that during these times, I may have been amplifying my partner’s energetic conditioning. It was to the point where I was dreaming of third party conversation and waking up and be able to find everything that I thought I was dreaming. Nothing could get pass me and made me a lot more anxious and suspicious.
In our busy lives, sleep is a precious commodity. We crave those peaceful, uninterrupted hours when we can fully recharge our minds and bodies. But for many of us—whether we’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between—the notion of sleeping alone can often be seen as lonely or unnecessary. However, sleeping solo has unique benefits that go beyond just having the bed to yourself. It can provide profound healing that improves moods, increase individuality, and even some surprising energetic advantages.
For starters, peace and quiet!
Sharing a bed with someone—whether it’s a partner, spouse, or even a beloved pet—often means that you’re dealing with external disturbances. Snoring, tossing and turning, different sleep schedules, or even a preference for different room temperatures can all disrupt your sleep, leaving you less rested in the morning.
When you sleep alone, the entire space becomes yours to control. You can adjust the temperature, light, and noise levels exactly to your liking without having to consider another person’s preferences. For a large majority of my life, I have always slept in bed with others, whether it was my siblings, mother, college roommate, partners, I was always made to share sleeping space.
That peace and quiet also improved my moods.
Ever notice how irritable you are when you haven’t gotten the best sleep? I mean for starters, you hit the snooze button more than necessary. At least I do. A restless night significantly impact your mood and emotional well-being. According to various sleep studies, individuals who get uninterrupted, high-quality sleep are more likely to wake up feeling emotionally balanced and ready to face the day.
When sleeping alone, you are more likely to sleep through the night without disturbances.
And again, who’s with me on this?
Once I was able to start sleeping alone again, my dreams returned and I was finally able to remember them. My trust for myself increased and I felt myself growing more sure in who I am. My manifestations happened quicker. I was showing up again as my social self, strong wiled and determined.
For couples or roommates who frequently share a bed, the emotional benefits of sleeping alone can be particularly eye-opening. Imagine not waking up multiple times throughout the night due to someone else’s movements or snoring. The emotional clarity that results from a good night’s sleep can improve your relationships, work productivity, and personal satisfaction.
On occasion I do miss having a warm body next to me, but that helps by understanding that when I do fall asleep, I am held, in intentions, by an energy divined just for me.
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